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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Yeah... Not too fun when someone migrates over to your বন্ধু instead, eh?
I have that sort of problem, except this guy isn't annoying and he wasn't bothering me; it's my friend's ex, and he won't get away from her. Just being around him makes her feel bad, অথবা maybe I should say "worse" since she has some depression.
All in all, I understand how you're feeling and I go through things like that too.
I can understand that আপনি want him to leave your best বন্ধু be, but I think that's আরো of their decision. I say that because of two things: first off, if they don't mind him being around them, then that's fine. Second, when আপনি put down "making my বন্ধু mad at me", it makes me think that they actually enjoy their company. If this is the case, then I don't believe আপনি should interfere. If this isn't, I still think that আপনি should talk to your বন্ধু about this little "problem" and see what আপনি come up with. This doesn't mean "devise some plan" to ruin his life, embarrass him, etc. I mean actually sit down and talk about it, and then communicate with him and tell him how আপনি all feel.
Let's say that your বন্ধু want to be around this guy. Seeing as আপনি don't like him so much, I think that আপনি should talk to your বন্ধু and work something out. For an example, maybe they could hang out with him at a time where you're not around, so that আপনি don't feel so annoyed. If this still doesn't work out for you, think to yourself that he's at least not bothering you. And that he's not doing anything mean to your friends.
We'll go for another scenario here for the heck of it: let's say that your বন্ধু got together and talked about it. আপনি all go and talk to this guy, but he still doesn't leave আপনি alone. What do আপনি do? I would suggest doing the same as আপনি did: just ignoring him. I wouldn't suggest anything like "getting even" with him; no one needs to stoop down to any levels. Deal with situations maturely and calmly, and remember to be patient. Let not a single person yell, complain, whine, etc. It sounds like something a parent would say, but it really does make things worse if আপনি do so.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other প্রশ্ন that আপনি may have.
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