exclusive interview: selena gomez
Forget everything আপনি think আপনি know about Selena Gomez, ডিজনি Princess. The Monte Carlo তারকা opens up to Seventeen about growing up, moving on, and falling in love.
Selena Gomez might be dating Justin Bieber, the guy every girl obsesses over, but she still has other crushes too. That’s the great thing about her: she’s growing up and is getting to know herself, but she’s not totally abandoning the girl আপনি fell in প্রণয় with on Wizards either.
Today, the 18-year-old actress is finding a fierce independence that’s helping her trade the TV life for major movie তারকা status, in July's Monte Carlo. But আরো importantly, she’s finding peace in her relationships—including her friendship with Demi—and is opening herself up to the possibility of real love. Seventeen sat down with Selena to talk love, life, and of course, Justin.
17: Your movie, Monte Carlo, is all about growing up and moving on—graduating and taking this first major trip alone. Do আপনি feel as free as Grace is?
SG: Yeah, I’ve definitely gained a lot of that recently. I went on vacation over New Year’s with a bunch of my friends, for the first time, without my parents. That was so much fun. I feel like I’m in a place where I’m on my own a little bit. It’s nice.
17: Traveling with বন্ধু is definitely a major milestone. Who would আপনি want to take with আপনি on a trip to Paris (or Monte Carlo)?
SG: I’d প্রণয় to go on vacation with Taylor [Swift]. I’ve been able to fly to Nashville to see her, and she’ll come to LA a lot, but it’d be nice to get away. It would be really fun. I’ve known Taylor for over three years now, so we’re at the point where we just get each other.
17: Is she your best friend?
SG: I’ve gotten to the point where the label of “best friend” is so ridiculous. If আপনি have three people in your life that আপনি can trust, আপনি can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life—probably five, collectively—who I can tell everything to. There’s Jennifer [Stone], my friend Ashley, and Taylor, and my two cousins.
17: Has it always been easy for আপনি with friends? অথবা have আপনি ever had a friendship fall apart?
SG: Yes. আপনি reflect on the people who used to be in your life, and it’s like, ‘Wow, I can’t believe that person was ever really in my life.’ But people are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach আপনি lessons. You’re growing and changing, and eventually, আপনি can go from having all these বন্ধু to feeling like আপনি have no one, because you’ve been betrayed, অথবা you’ve gone through things. But in this moment, I’m in such a good place with my friends. I feel confident and I’m happy there are people who I can truly trust in my life.
17: And if a person does betray you, do আপনি ever give সেকেন্ড chances?
SG: I believe in সেকেন্ড chances, but I don’t believe in third অথবা fourth chances. I প্রণয় talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really প্রণয় someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, অথবা if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. আপনি can’t change a person. Jennifer Stone has told me a thousand times: “You want to be বন্ধু with people who double you, not cut আপনি in half.”
17: As far as বন্ধু who change, অথবা go through something, আপনি obviously went through that with Demi. Are আপনি two still close?
SG: Yes, of course. There’s an amount of প্রণয় that can never—no matter what—be taken away অথবা torn apart, no matter the situation. There are certain people who আপনি will always, always love, so if anything, this just reminded me of how much I truly প্রণয় her.
17: It’s so nice to be able to open yourself up to প্রণয় that way. Do আপনি feel like you’ve ever been in প্রণয় before?
SG: I don’t know. I maybe had a first প্রণয় and had my হৃদয় broken, but reflecting on it, I don’t think that was love. I think that was just me being fifteen and going, "Oh my gosh! I know I’m in love. I’m going to marry him." So I don’t think that was love. I think as I’m getting older and having আরো in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience it. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.
17: But when আপনি did feel like আপনি were in love, how did আপনি deal when it ended?
SG: I’ve very emotional. When I went through my first breakup, I thought it was the end of the world, and I thought I was going to die if I didn’t have him in my life. It was good to cry it out, and just scream, অথবা call my বন্ধু in the middle of the night crying. আপনি can’t shut down, আপনি can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’. আপনি have to let it be painful and get through it. Every দিন gets better. Because when you’re in love, আপনি kind of give everything and make that person your life. So every দিন আপনি get আরো and আরো of yourself back, and it feels better.
17: You’ve been very private with your relationships in the past, but with Justin, you’ve been আরো open—you even coordinated Oscars outfits.
SG: I know. That was our prom.
17: Was there a corsage involved?
SG: No, but there should have been!
17: Is there a reason you’ve decided to be আরো open this time around, with Justin?
SG: I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.
17: Since আপনি are আরো open, you’ve obviously been through a tough time with Justin’s fans. Do আপনি remember being younger, and being a অনুরাগী with a crush?
SG: Are আপনি kidding me? I’m still thinking Zac Efron’s my husband.
17: Well we hear he’s on the market…
SG: No. I wouldn’t touch that. I প্রণয় Vanessa [Hudgens] way too much.
17: Do আপনি have anything আপনি wish আপনি could say to Justin’s অনুরাগী now?
SG: I do see the passion that a lot of these girls have, and it’s beautiful. I প্রণয় it. I really do. It’s special.
Forget everything আপনি think আপনি know about Selena Gomez, ডিজনি Princess. The Monte Carlo তারকা opens up to Seventeen about growing up, moving on, and falling in love.
Selena Gomez might be dating Justin Bieber, the guy every girl obsesses over, but she still has other crushes too. That’s the great thing about her: she’s growing up and is getting to know herself, but she’s not totally abandoning the girl আপনি fell in প্রণয় with on Wizards either.
Today, the 18-year-old actress is finding a fierce independence that’s helping her trade the TV life for major movie তারকা status, in July's Monte Carlo. But আরো importantly, she’s finding peace in her relationships—including her friendship with Demi—and is opening herself up to the possibility of real love. Seventeen sat down with Selena to talk love, life, and of course, Justin.
17: Your movie, Monte Carlo, is all about growing up and moving on—graduating and taking this first major trip alone. Do আপনি feel as free as Grace is?
SG: Yeah, I’ve definitely gained a lot of that recently. I went on vacation over New Year’s with a bunch of my friends, for the first time, without my parents. That was so much fun. I feel like I’m in a place where I’m on my own a little bit. It’s nice.
17: Traveling with বন্ধু is definitely a major milestone. Who would আপনি want to take with আপনি on a trip to Paris (or Monte Carlo)?
SG: I’d প্রণয় to go on vacation with Taylor [Swift]. I’ve been able to fly to Nashville to see her, and she’ll come to LA a lot, but it’d be nice to get away. It would be really fun. I’ve known Taylor for over three years now, so we’re at the point where we just get each other.
17: Is she your best friend?
SG: I’ve gotten to the point where the label of “best friend” is so ridiculous. If আপনি have three people in your life that আপনি can trust, আপনি can consider yourself the luckiest person in the whole world. I have a lot of wonderful people in my life—probably five, collectively—who I can tell everything to. There’s Jennifer [Stone], my friend Ashley, and Taylor, and my two cousins.
17: Has it always been easy for আপনি with friends? অথবা have আপনি ever had a friendship fall apart?
SG: Yes. আপনি reflect on the people who used to be in your life, and it’s like, ‘Wow, I can’t believe that person was ever really in my life.’ But people are put into your life for seasons, for different reasons, and to teach আপনি lessons. You’re growing and changing, and eventually, আপনি can go from having all these বন্ধু to feeling like আপনি have no one, because you’ve been betrayed, অথবা you’ve gone through things. But in this moment, I’m in such a good place with my friends. I feel confident and I’m happy there are people who I can truly trust in my life.
17: And if a person does betray you, do আপনি ever give সেকেন্ড chances?
SG: I believe in সেকেন্ড chances, but I don’t believe in third অথবা fourth chances. I প্রণয় talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really প্রণয় someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, অথবা if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. আপনি can’t change a person. Jennifer Stone has told me a thousand times: “You want to be বন্ধু with people who double you, not cut আপনি in half.”
17: As far as বন্ধু who change, অথবা go through something, আপনি obviously went through that with Demi. Are আপনি two still close?
SG: Yes, of course. There’s an amount of প্রণয় that can never—no matter what—be taken away অথবা torn apart, no matter the situation. There are certain people who আপনি will always, always love, so if anything, this just reminded me of how much I truly প্রণয় her.
17: It’s so nice to be able to open yourself up to প্রণয় that way. Do আপনি feel like you’ve ever been in প্রণয় before?
SG: I don’t know. I maybe had a first প্রণয় and had my হৃদয় broken, but reflecting on it, I don’t think that was love. I think that was just me being fifteen and going, "Oh my gosh! I know I’m in love. I’m going to marry him." So I don’t think that was love. I think as I’m getting older and having আরো in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience it. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.
17: But when আপনি did feel like আপনি were in love, how did আপনি deal when it ended?
SG: I’ve very emotional. When I went through my first breakup, I thought it was the end of the world, and I thought I was going to die if I didn’t have him in my life. It was good to cry it out, and just scream, অথবা call my বন্ধু in the middle of the night crying. আপনি can’t shut down, আপনি can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’. আপনি have to let it be painful and get through it. Every দিন gets better. Because when you’re in love, আপনি kind of give everything and make that person your life. So every দিন আপনি get আরো and আরো of yourself back, and it feels better.
17: You’ve been very private with your relationships in the past, but with Justin, you’ve been আরো open—you even coordinated Oscars outfits.
SG: I know. That was our prom.
17: Was there a corsage involved?
SG: No, but there should have been!
17: Is there a reason you’ve decided to be আরো open this time around, with Justin?
SG: I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.
17: Since আপনি are আরো open, you’ve obviously been through a tough time with Justin’s fans. Do আপনি remember being younger, and being a অনুরাগী with a crush?
SG: Are আপনি kidding me? I’m still thinking Zac Efron’s my husband.
17: Well we hear he’s on the market…
SG: No. I wouldn’t touch that. I প্রণয় Vanessa [Hudgens] way too much.
17: Do আপনি have anything আপনি wish আপনি could say to Justin’s অনুরাগী now?
SG: I do see the passion that a lot of these girls have, and it’s beautiful. I প্রণয় it. I really do. It’s special.
