Communication:
-Communication communication communication. আপনি need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, আপনি cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So আপনি need to be able to talk to them. Tell them আপনি are upset. With the distance, আপনি cannot behave like আপনি would in a local relationship, আপনি cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what আপনি are doing every মিনিট of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when আপনি do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so আপনি know when (about when) the পরবর্তি visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. আপনি both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW আপনি will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if আপনি aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If আপনি are feeling doubt. Remember that আপনি প্রণয় them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the প্রণয় of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but আপনি need to.
Set তারিখ Nights
-Talk about when আপনি will have dates. Even with the distance আপনি can have dates!
-Pick ONE দিন a week that no matter what, the two of আপনি can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, আপনি will know that আপনি will talk at least that one day. If for some reason আপনি cannot talk on তারিখ day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, অথবা texts, অথবা emails, however works best for আপনি guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If আপনি প্রণয় them, why hide them?
-If আপনি keep your relationship secret, are আপনি ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless আপনি don’t প্রণয় them.
-If আপনি keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if আপনি are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to সরানো where? How will আপনি end the distance? আপনি don’t need to end the distance right away, but If আপনি plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of আপনি plan on moving away, and আপনি never talked about it, আপনি both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. অথবা আপনি will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they প্রণয় you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, আপনি know আপনি will be upset with not doing what আপনি wanted. If আপনি end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If আপনি don’t think আপনি could ever leave your family, tell them that. If আপনি don’t want to travel, tell them, if আপনি want to wait longer before আপনি সরানো tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the পরবর্তি visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how আপনি feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your বন্ধু don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not প্রথমপাতা all the time, আপনি will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If আপনি have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair অথবা iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 অথবা higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, আপনি can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If আপনি don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype অথবা FaceTime, oovoo, ফেসবুক has webcaming now, গুগুল + has hangouts, etc.
-Communication communication communication. আপনি need to talk about everything, and i mean everything.
-If something is bothering you, আপনি cannot expect them to know, because of the distance. So আপনি need to be able to talk to them. Tell them আপনি are upset. With the distance, আপনি cannot behave like আপনি would in a local relationship, আপনি cannot be upset and expect them to know. Sometimes it is obvious, but even then, it is good habit to be straight forward: “I am a little upset right now. X, Y, and Z happened and I am not happy with it”.
-You do not need to tell them what আপনি are doing every মিনিট of everyday. But its important to talk about big events. Let them know when you're going somewhere (like out of the state/far away from home). Let them know if you're going to be unable to talk to them for a while/couple hours, so they are not worried when আপনি do not text back at the usual time frame.
-Talk about money. Talk about how you're going to visit/afford visiting. Talk about who is visiting who, and when. Talk about the future so আপনি know when (about when) the পরবর্তি visit will happen. Money is extra important in an LDR. আপনি both need to be able to talk about it, negotiate, and save.
-Talk about HOW আপনি will communicate, and how often, so one party isn't upset if আপনি aren't communicating as much as previously discussed. This bring me to another point I will mention a bit later.
Trust:
-Trust your partner 100%, even if its hard.
-Do not suspect they are doing something, do not jump to conclusion.
-Do not “make them jealous” on purpose. That is stupid and childish.
-If আপনি are feeling doubt. Remember that আপনি প্রণয় them. Remind yourself the distance is probably just playing with you.
-Have a rule that they are: innocent until proven guilty. It is not fair to condemn them for something that they probably haven’t even done unless they have proven it.
-TRUSTTT for the প্রণয় of god trust. It is possible to get over trust issues. It requires a lot of work, but আপনি need to.
Set তারিখ Nights
-Talk about when আপনি will have dates. Even with the distance আপনি can have dates!
-Pick ONE দিন a week that no matter what, the two of আপনি can guarantee you’ll be in communication with each other. So if something comes up during the week, আপনি will know that আপনি will talk at least that one day. If for some reason আপনি cannot talk on তারিখ day… RESCHEDULE.
-Dates can be phone calls, অথবা texts, অথবা emails, however works best for আপনি guys to communicate.
Parents:
-Don’t keep them from your parents. If আপনি প্রণয় them, why hide them?
-If আপনি keep your relationship secret, are আপনি ashamed? Don’t be ashamed unless আপনি don’t প্রণয় them.
-If আপনি keep it from your parents, when they find out, they will be pissed. And if আপনি are underage, there goes any chance of being able to visit.
Plans for the future:
-Talk about the future, Who is going to সরানো where? How will আপনি end the distance? আপনি don’t need to end the distance right away, but If আপনি plan on being together forever, it needs to end eventually. And this needs to be discussed early on. If neither of আপনি plan on moving away, and আপনি never talked about it, আপনি both will be severely disappointed.
-Don’t change your dreams for your SO. অথবা আপনি will resent them. If its always been your dream to go to college, don’t give up college to live with them. If they প্রণয় you, they will wait until you’ve finished. If your dream is to go to a certain school, GO THERE, don’t trade that for a school closer, আপনি know আপনি will be upset with not doing what আপনি wanted. If আপনি end up resenting them, it will come up in a fight, and that will be a scar that wont ever heal.
-BE HONEST ABOUT EVERYTHING. If আপনি don’t think আপনি could ever leave your family, tell them that. If আপনি don’t want to travel, tell them, if আপনি want to wait longer before আপনি সরানো tell them. Everything needs to be out in the open.
-Ending the distance is HUGE, especially as the miles get farther. There’s no room to mess this up. Be honest, communicate, talk talk talk, and plan your future.
Other Notes:
-Having a countdown to the পরবর্তি visit is important. It helps ease the distance
-Give them little gifts to remind them of you.
-Talk about how আপনি feel. With the distance, that helps. Plus a text that puts a smile on your face is a lovely feeling.
-Do stuff together, even with the distance, watch tv shows/movies, play games online/on smart phones. anything!
-Don’t hide your relationship from anyone, including friends. If your বন্ধু don’t support you, get better friends. haha.
-Find a way to fill your time: job, hobby, friends. It is important that you're not প্রথমপাতা all the time, আপনি will just get upset about the distance. Fill your time (not spent communicating with your SO) with other things, it helps to distract yourself from the distance
Ways to communicate:
If আপনি have smart phones use:
Whatsapp, Pair অথবা iMessage (iMessage is automatic between two iPhones that have iOS 5.0 অথবা higher and does not count as a text on your bill, therefore is free, আপনি can use it on iPod Touches and iPads as well!)
If আপনি don’t have smart phones use:
Regular texts, unless you’re not in the same country. Use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger/etc. Email. Tumblr. Facebook. Etc.
Webcam:
Use Skype অথবা FaceTime, oovoo, ফেসবুক has webcaming now, গুগুল + has hangouts, etc.