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Karoii-chan said:
It's really nice that আপনি would care so deeply for her health and happiness. A sign of true love. ^__^
I'm also truly sorry for what happened to your late wife. May she always be happy in Heaven, দ্বারা the will and grace of God, watching down over আপনি and the other loved ones with a contented smile playing at her lips.
So what if আপনি two haven't been together for long? It doesn't matter. আপনি will have to stop her from smoking. Better now, so that her body can begin recovering from the cigarette toxins as soon as possible and thus reduce her risks of getting ill. God-willing.
I suggest that আপনি approach her calmly, like আপনি would on any other day, then invite her to take a stroll with আপনি out in the park/gardens - basically some peaceful area where the atmosphere can calm আপনি two down. Serene, soft, tranquil.
Walk hand-in-hand with her, get comfortable, maybe even engage in a little light-hearted discussion of sorts. Like the weather, অথবা where you'll have lunch later, something simple.
Then, calmly tell her that আপনি don't think it is healthy for a person to smoke. She might get angry, she might get riled up, especially considering all this feminism spreading everywhere like a wild আগুন - but I'll advise আপনি not to respond harshly. It will be difficult, I know (some of my বন্ধু are like that and it gets me pissed-off!), but without calmness... it won't be of any use.
Tell her that আপনি understand how some family issue/hardship in life might've encouraged her to take up smoking as a means of relieving stress. অথবা she might simply be 'fitting in' with the crap of today.
Whatever the reason is, tell her that আপনি understand and that আপনি wouldn't mind it if it didn't harm her health so much. Tell her that you're simply concerned for her well-being, just like any other sane and loving person would be.
আপনি may use some personal gestures to calm her down... maybe a hug, অথবা a hand-squeeze, অথবা something which আপনি think she'd appreciate.
Continue দ্বারা gently reminding her about the various diseases that could be brought about দ্বারা smoking and throw in your late wife's suffering (if you're willing to reveal) to make her see your perspective.
Press on দ্বারা saying that আপনি absolutely cannot lose another loved one in such a manner. Tell her that, while your wife might not have had a smoking-induced case of cancer, your girlfriend is basically driving herself to that stage.
Tell her to stop it for the sake of her own safety. Remind her of how her body is a vessel প্রদত্ত দ্বারা God and how it would be ungrateful, cruel and unjust to ruin her body in such a manner.
আপনি may even tell her that cigarette smoke will harm other people around her as well. It's not just the smoker who experiences the side-effects. Passive smoking is just as dangerous and harmful.
It will take time, just like any other matter, but hopefully she'll understand and quit smoking for good. God-willing. Also, প্রদর্শনী her medical website proof of smoking harms.
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