I hate to be the first to comment and be the bad guy(gal), but I don't care for the MelodyXJim pairing.
Since age seems to be the highest reason for other people disapproving of the couple, I'll address that matter first.
Age does matter. Maybe not when the two people in question are adults, but before that age definitely matters.
First of all let's look at what the two will be going through in their current psychological stages of development. Melody, having just turned 12 (given it was her 12th birthday in the movie), has just entered the "Identity vs. Role Confusion" stage. During this stage (ages 12-18) teens need to develop a sense of self and personal identity. Success leads to an ability to stay true to yourself, while failure leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self. The most important event of this stage is forming social relationships. Now Jim is in the middle of this stage, thus having a firmer grasp on who he is and who he wants to be. Currently with them both at the same stage, this wouldn't be too much of a problem. However with Jim being 3 years older, he will reach the next stage, and Melody will not be in the same stage for another 3 years. Establishing a sense of identity is very important for an adolescent and that takes time. If you have Melody and Jim as being a couple, then when Jim goes into the next stage of maturity, Melody may want to force herself psychologically into the next stage which may mess with her formation of identity and lead to role confusion and a weak sense of self.
Secondly, their physical development is too different at this point. Jim is fifteen year old boy and probably starting to those ideas in his head that all little girls' fathers worry about. Melody is 12 years old and just starting puberty. The pairing just seems awkward with the current ages and age differences.
Thirdly, (no offense to Shakespeare) I highly disapproved of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. It starts off with Romeo claiming to be madly in love a girl named Rosalind, then he sees Juliet and suddenly claims he's now in love with her. Romeo clearly only liked Juliet for her appearance. He did not know anything of her personality, interests, or thoughts. Juliet, 13 and gullible, is swept off her feet by Romeo's romantic words as he fawns over her appearance. Now let's see a 13 year old girl with a 17 year old boy. Romeo is practically a cradle-robber. In one year, their union would be illegal in the US. Another reason to pick at this play (oh there are so many) is that Romeo is a git! He swiftly changes loves and at one point of the play when he finds out he can't be with Juliet, he cries like a baby. The Friar at one point even says to him, "Art thou a man? Thy tears are womanish."
Now I will say one thing for the play, and that is that given the time period it takes place the age difference is not as big of a deal as it is now. Back at that time, it was acceptable for a young teenage girl to be married off, but that time has long passed.
Melody needs to be either closer to Jim's age or they do not need to have a romantic relationship til they are both adults.
Oh, here's the definition of "git:"
git, n.
In contemptuous use: a worthless person.
Since age seems to be the highest reason for other people disapproving of the couple, I'll address that matter first.
Age does matter. Maybe not when the two people in question are adults, but before that age definitely matters.
First of all let's look at what the two will be going through in their current psychological stages of development. Melody, having just turned 12 (given it was her 12th birthday in the movie), has just entered the "Identity vs. Role Confusion" stage. During this stage (ages 12-18) teens need to develop a sense of self and personal identity. Success leads to an ability to stay true to yourself, while failure leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self. The most important event of this stage is forming social relationships. Now Jim is in the middle of this stage, thus having a firmer grasp on who he is and who he wants to be. Currently with them both at the same stage, this wouldn't be too much of a problem. However with Jim being 3 years older, he will reach the next stage, and Melody will not be in the same stage for another 3 years. Establishing a sense of identity is very important for an adolescent and that takes time. If you have Melody and Jim as being a couple, then when Jim goes into the next stage of maturity, Melody may want to force herself psychologically into the next stage which may mess with her formation of identity and lead to role confusion and a weak sense of self.
Secondly, their physical development is too different at this point. Jim is fifteen year old boy and probably starting to those ideas in his head that all little girls' fathers worry about. Melody is 12 years old and just starting puberty. The pairing just seems awkward with the current ages and age differences.
Thirdly, (no offense to Shakespeare) I highly disapproved of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. It starts off with Romeo claiming to be madly in love a girl named Rosalind, then he sees Juliet and suddenly claims he's now in love with her. Romeo clearly only liked Juliet for her appearance. He did not know anything of her personality, interests, or thoughts. Juliet, 13 and gullible, is swept off her feet by Romeo's romantic words as he fawns over her appearance. Now let's see a 13 year old girl with a 17 year old boy. Romeo is practically a cradle-robber. In one year, their union would be illegal in the US. Another reason to pick at this play (oh there are so many) is that Romeo is a git! He swiftly changes loves and at one point of the play when he finds out he can't be with Juliet, he cries like a baby. The Friar at one point even says to him, "Art thou a man? Thy tears are womanish."
Now I will say one thing for the play, and that is that given the time period it takes place the age difference is not as big of a deal as it is now. Back at that time, it was acceptable for a young teenage girl to be married off, but that time has long passed.
Melody needs to be either closer to Jim's age or they do not need to have a romantic relationship til they are both adults.
Oh, here's the definition of "git:"
git, n.
In contemptuous use: a worthless person.
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