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I'm only posting this here because the উপদেশ spot is kinda dead and I feel I'll have আরো luck here.

I'm gonna try to explain my situation as briefly as possible. Please ভালুক with me :L I'm really in need of advice.

So, typical issue: I'm heavily infatuated with my guy friend. I've liked him for a long time now, and I can honestly say I've NEVER liked a guy as much as I like him. We hang out twice per week at a lounge, doing homework and stuff like that, because we both have time gaps between classes. I absolutely প্রণয় those days; being with him is always the highlight of my দিন and I feel that we connect really well. I even went to his band's সঙ্গীতানুষ্ঠান with a mutual friend down in another city a few weeks ago. I feel like I flirt with him a lot, but he seems to be one of those guys who doesn't really pick up on it. (He is very intelligent, don't get me wrong).

I used to always scoff at the idea of actually telling him how I feel. However, lately I've been contemplating the idea of it. I প্রণয় the friendship we've developed and I'd hate to ruin it. Also... I don't think he likes me in that way. I mean, I suppose it's possible, but it hasn't been made evident and I know it's highly likely he only thinks of me as a friend. But the thing is... I still just want to tell him. I hate keeping such a big secret from him and it makes me feel like I'm being dishonest in a way. Also, I'd hate to live with the regret of "what could've been" if I would've tried. There's no guarantee that telling him will ruin the friendship, but I still am afraid to take the risk.

There are about 5 weeks left of the semester, and I don't know if we'll both have break times between classes again পরবর্তি semester. So that means these could be my last 5 weeks of seeing him regularly and my last opportunities to try and "take action." People say to just casually ask him to go do something like a movie অথবা a meal, but I feel that might be a little weird to ask that since we hang out regularly
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(sorry, it didn't post the rest): since we hang out regularly anyways, and he is also a very busy person in general. What do আপনি guys think? Should I just tell him that I like him, being fully prepared for rejection but just taking the risk and not having to live with the regret of "what if"? অথবা is it not worth it to risk the friendship? And yes, I will give শ্রদ্ধার্ঘ্য for answering...
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আপনি are so lucky to have breaks in between classes?!?!??!
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And thank আপনি all for your answers. I will definitely take all of this into account. So far, including বন্ধু and family I've talked to, the majority have ব্যক্ত to go for it lol. This information has been very helpful, so thanks again :P
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Max277 said:
Well I personally think আপনি should tell him how আপনি feel. If he doesn't like what আপনি feel about him then he's a jerk. A movie wouldn't be a bad idea আপনি should probably try it. If he ask why, tell him আপনি just really wanted to see the movie and know one would come with আপনি to see it. If আপনি do ask him out and he says no, then he didn't really "like you" I mean it's not awkward to have feelings for a friend that আপনি have known forever. I have had close বন্ধু that I liked but never asked them out. But আপনি should try it. It's not gonna hurt if আপনি just ask him. If আপনি end up do asking him out and he says no, that doesn't mean আপনি guys can't still be friends. For an example I had a huge crush on this guy, one of my বন্ধু found out and told him that I liked him. But that didn't ruin our friendship we had. We were still good friends. All I can tell আপনি is, give it a try. If আপনি only got 5 weeks to ask him I'd get on it. Because people don't wait forever. Hopefully this helpped!!! Please let me know what happens!!!
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zikkiforever said:
We all got to takes risks in life. Just do it. Now is all seriousness,it is better to not go what could have been. Just ease into it. If আপনি hang our regularly then আপনি should be comfortable around each other.

If there ain't long left of the semester,it is better to do it. Go with the moment. It won't wreck your friendship. আপনি can't control feelings. Maybe get a mate in there and ask him what he thinks of you.

It will save the embarrassment if a friend finds out if he likes আপনি as a friend অথবা not. He may not feel that way ,but not everybody will.

Don't ask him out on a তারিখ yet. Ask him to help আপনি to a review on a movie,review on a খাবার place অথবা something. Ask him for help,if it was meant to be it will become আরো than it started out. Don't say it is a তারিখ অথবা that will make him nervous. If sparks fly between BOTH of আপনি ,then there আপনি go.

আপনি could even try avoiding him for a while. It may sound silly ,but he likes আপনি that much he will come to আপনি and ask why you're avoiding him. If he doesn't notice maybe your not as close as আপনি think.

1.Ask a friend to find out.
2.Make up an occasion
3.Avoid him

If your বন্ধু প্রতিবেদন back with bad news সরানো on it will hurt ,but it happens. I am sure আপনি won't get married like people think,it never turns out a school প্রণয় is your special somebody.
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Dreamtime said:
hold the props
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wait till the 5 weeks ends
then tell him how আপনি feel
if আপনি confess to him now and it ends bad "let us just be friends" you'll get your heartbroken and disappointed
and আপনি may not concentrate on exams and get bad grades
so yeah
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LiveLoveMusic said:
1. If you're too scared to do it, just don't do it. Keep your friendship the way it is if আপনি don't want to take a risk :-)

2. Ask another friend to tell him if you're the shy type like me. I did that once, actually and it worked. If you're not shy, then just ignore this...

3. Tell him how আপনি feel. I think that there could be a big chance that he likes আপনি too. I have a friend who's boyfriend doesn't really act like a boyfriend, but don't get me wrong, he likes her. At least try. If he doesn't like আপনি back, I'm sure you'll still be friends.

4. Wait until the end of the semester. If আপনি want some time to think about how you're going to tell him, this is a good thing to do.

Any one আপনি pick, good luck either way.
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Foreve1D said:
I had the same problem!!!!! I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I'm telling আপনি right now, that if this guy is as good of a friend as he's coming across, then he'll be able to take আপনি approaching him about it. I confronted my guy and no, he didn't like me back but we still remained বন্ধু after that and it felt good to get it off my chest. It was like it almost never happened that awkward moment there. But why waste your time saying "What if?" and just go for it. Guys may be unpredictable, but maybe he's just অভিনয় like he doesn't like আপনি because he thinks আপনি might not like him. He may have had his হৃদয় broken before and is just afraid. There is no harm in trying. Hope this helped!
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Let me know what happens please!
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Haha. If anything remarkable goes down, I'll fill আপনি in :P
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Thanks that would be great! :)
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karolinak1999 said:
awwh thats so cute!!!!

Don't tell him, প্রদর্শনী him when the time is right and আপনি two are alone....lean in and চুম্বন him - like in the চলচ্চিত্র lol!!!!! but I'm serious, if your in a moment আপনি two are alone.......The other thinh আপনি should look at is are আপনি in his league?!......and are আপনি sure he's not gay??, I'm serious ***but don't want any props!!!
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prussiaducky said:
I wouldn't if I were you, just keep the beautiful friendship. I wouldn't want to ever lose such a friendship. That's me though, take the risk if আপনি really want to.
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Book-Freak said:
Well, I think আপনি should tell him. If আপনি feel so passionately about this (and him) আপনি should tell him. It might not be easy to do (and he might not feel the same way so আপনি should be prepared for that) but he might accept it you'll be closer (he may even feel the same way!).
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