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Chibi-Baka3 said:
To put it simply, relationships usually take a while to grow. It's good to take your time instead of get to know someone for a few days and then go out with them. Don't take this as assuming, I'm just stating my opinion. ^^;
What I think আপনি should do is talk to Chase. আপনি should at least spend a little time together instead of sitting around and watching him text all the time; what fun is a তারিখ -- অথবা get-together, for lack of a better phrase -- if he's going to sit there most of the time? Talking to other বন্ধু is fine, but there are certain times where আপনি have to set the phone aside.
Also, I don't think that it would be considered cheating if he's texting his ex. It's common for someone to still like their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, but it's up to আপনি whether অথবা not it's a problem. Some people need time to get used to how different things are now, and all go at their own pace. If আপনি really feel bothered দ্বারা it, sit down and have a talk about how আপনি to feel about the situation.
Important things to know for communication:
Make sure আপনি both have eye contact (and it would probably be good if he didn't have his phone in his hand; somewhere away from him, like a table); this is key to good communication.
Restate your feelings in a different way, if আপনি need to.
DO NOT use "you" statements, such as "You're so stupid for *insert other statement here*", অথবা "You should put that phone down and pay আরো attention!" NEVER use that; it's "attacking" the person that you're talking to and is terrible communication.
DO, however, use "I" statements, such as "I think আপনি should..." and others (ex. "I need", "I want", "I believe", etc).
Stay calm when আপনি two speak to each other. If আপনি begin to feel angry, step aside for a moment অথবা two. Take a quick walk outside অথবা pace in a different room. Once আপনি calm down, go back to him and start talking again.
If আপনি feel as if আপনি need আরো help -- অথবা if you're uncomfortable with speaking to him alone -- have a friend with you. However, I really think that আপনি should just talk one-on-one, so that it's easier to convey the message.
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