Dear Abby...(advice me please?)

*Dear Abby is উপদেশ columns in newspapers. Please could আপনি guys give me advice?*


Dear Abby: Thanks for the chance to help me...I mean, I just feel...so হারিয়ে গেছে and confused, all the time now. Almost all the time at least. I'm beginning to develop feelings for 2 guys....worse thing, is that they're brothers - fraternal twin brothers nonetheless! What do I do? I've sort of liked both of them since the beginning of 7th grade (start of middle school), and now we're all in our সেকেন্ড বছর of middle school (8th grade). One of the brothers, I don't have a class with him at all this year. And the other one...I have a class with him, and that's history - I sit right behind him too. My best friend, who has 3 classes with one brother and 4 with the other (including the one class I have with him) says that they both like me. Both of them. I sort of believe her, yet I sort of don't at the same time...I mean, they both "flirt" with me (or so my best friend says), but what if it isn't "flirting"? What if it's just talking? What if it's "flirting", but just to get another girl jealous? What if they both don't like me at all? What if people are just saying that to make fun of me?

The first brother, "Neo", I've always sort of liked him. I first met him in CTE and Keyboarding, and we both type SUPER fast (him at 139 words per মিনিট and myself at 178 per minute). I thought we were really becoming friends...He's pretty quiet and shy...but he can be sarcastic and funny too! He's super polite and sweet and very considerate as well...And then there's his younger brother (by 8 অথবা 10 minutes?), "Hayden". Hayden is quite different from Neo, but they have similar qualities as well. They're both funny and polite when they want to be, but Hayden...he's ruder in a way. Hayden especially has become ruder over the couple years I've known these two brothers...He used to be so kind, funny, easy-going, and so easy to talk to...but now he's so sassy and rude...and so plain inconsiderate! I met H
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I met Hayden the same way I met Neo; CTE, but instead of Keyboarding I had English with Hayden. I প্রণয় them both. Really. I do. Seriously and sincerely. But hayden's been অভিনয় really weird lately...and so has Neo. Hayden seemingly "flirts" with me (said so দ্বারা my best friend and some of my classmates and other friends), and Hayden's been rude to other girls who try to "flirt" with him and he always insults stuff I say I like (even if he used to like it/them, if I say I প্রণয় it/them, he'll say he hates it/them). One time, I watched his পছন্দ tv show, The Walking Dead, and I told him I liked it. He was happy and then he asked me who my পছন্দ character was. I ব্যক্ত I didn't really know (since I really didn't like Walking Dead) and then he said, "Glenn's cool, I like him." I then remembered the character Glenn and then exclaimed, "Glenn? Oh my gosh, I প্রণয় Glenn! I প্রণয় him!" and then Hayden's expression hardened and his eyes narrowed and then he huffed, turning away from me and saying, "Ew, I hate Glenn." My best friend (who has history with us and sits পরবর্তি to me) says that Hayden flirts with me - all the time. And it's not "talking" flirting, it's his "looks" that make him flirt. Like...he would have this "bad boy sassy" flirting. Sort of "sexy" flirting, আপনি could say. Like, he laughs a lot around me, he talks loudly around me, even if he's not talking to me, and he would make a joke and would glance my way sometimes - even if he was talking normally with his বন্ধু he would laugh and look at me to see if I was paying attention অথবা not (I don't watch him, my best friend does this for me). She ব্যক্ত he also acts like "a big shot" around me, and when he looks at me, she ব্যক্ত it was "flirtacious" one time. And then there's Neo...Neo...well he's been "avoiding" me lately. I don't know if it's because we have no classes with each other...but every দিন in the mornings...it seems like he doesn't want to talk to me. And then in the halls I would see him, and would try to say hi, but he would just avoid my gaze and walk away quickly to his পরবর্তি class. Even if I did get a chance to talk to him, he would always stutter, and avoid my gaze and blush a TON. Which is funny because I was, like, the only girl he WOULDN'T try to avoid eye contact with. He also runs his hand through his hair, sometimes, nervously. It sucks...really...every time I try talking with him, our conversations are always cut short as he quickly hurries out of the school (at the end of the day) অথবা to his পরবর্তি class (in the mornings অথবা in the halls.) My best friend, "Marie", (yes the same one who says that they both like me and flirt with me and have a lot of classes with them) says it's because Neo doesn't want any "brotherly competition" with Hayden, because Hayden's already "claimed" me. I don't know if that's true অথবা not...but I'm beginning to get suspicions. Since I've noticed (and since others have told me) that Hayden likes me and appears to have an interest in me, Neo's been avoiding me (which basically counts as the beginning of this school year, 8th grade). Marie also says that my life is like Vampire Diaries all over again... But what do আপনি think, Abby? Do they like me, অথবা are me and my বন্ধু just misreading and misinterpreting their actions? Sincerely, Falling Hard (and out) of প্রণয়
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bakes2389 said:
First and foremost, I would like to say that আপনি are in 8th grade......this is not love. This is a hardcore crush....love is earned after a relationship has been built and dating can be thrown in there as well.
Now I'll get down to the nitty-gritty. Both guys could like you.....that's all fine and dandy. However, the guy Hayden really sounds "dickish" if I were to put it nicely. Any guy that insults আপনি and what আপনি have to say is not worth a মিনিট of your time. I know he has his "nice moments," but the insults are not cool and আপনি shouldn't have to put up with that. Also, that whole Walking Dead thing was probably a test. Guys actually do a lot of those tests to get a feel of what আপনি like, how persuasive they are, etc.
Based on পাঠ করা all that you've written about Neo, I'd say that আপনি have a real thing for him. I think he's honestly the better brother (but that's just me). I feel like আপনি should go for him.
Now, on the whole brother competition thing.... NO MAN HAS CLAIMED YOU. Get that out of your head pronto. A man অথবা shall I say "boy" in this situation has no claim on you. If Neo can't man up and tell his brother that "you snooze আপনি lose" then he isn't worth your time either. I think Hayden needs to slow his roll until he can treat আপনি like a lady.
Lastly, don't think that they are flirting with আপনি to make another girl jealous. That's awful....don't think like that. If a guy does that.....he's a douche and doesn't deserve you. He would be Lord of the Assholes. They are flirting with আপনি because they like you. End of story.
I personally feel that আপনি should talk it out with these boys and just throw it all on the table. But if that does not work, I think আপনি should give both of them a wide birth.......whichever one decides to come to আপনি is a keeper and they've realized they need আপনি in their life. Keep watching their actions and keep gaging in to the best of your ability. Everything that is supposed to happen....will happen. :) Best of luck!
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DramaQueen1020 said:
Whoa! That sounds like quite a dilemma!

First of all, flirting to get somebody jealous isn't something আপনি need to worry about. Because a) In most cases people don't do this, and b) even if it is to get someone jealous, he's not worth your time.

If আপনি didn't like The Walking Dead, আপনি shouldn't have told him আপনি do. I'm not trying to chastise you, I'm just saying আপনি could've told him nicely that আপনি don't like the show. I think he was mad when আপনি ব্যক্ত আপনি loved Glenn because he might've been jealous that আপনি loved Glenn too much.

Hayden sounds like he really likes you. If he's অভিনয় all macho and wondering if you're paying attention that's because he wants to impress you. And আপনি can watch him if you're interested, your friend doesn't have to do all that.

Yes, I agree with your friend though. There's brotherly competition with those two. Neo, being the shyer one, would be nervous around you, naturally.

Remember, it may have even what people say, but nobody has actually "claimed you". And don't let yourself think that, অথবা the twins. আপনি are nobody's but yourself's. পরবর্তি time আপনি see Neo, try to ask him what's wrong, but don't pressure him. Tell him you'd like to hang out one time. See how he reacts.

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