So, these past couple months, I've picked up a few things. My story in a nutshell: I sat behind my crush in class, didn't start liking him until the last মাস অথবা so of school, didn't get too many chances to talk to him due to the teacher's way of running the class, and I spent those last few weeks desperately trying to befriend him.
Anyways, here are some things I've learned from the whole experience.
1. Don't EVER pass up an opportunity to talk to ANYONE you're sitting near in class (doesn't matter if it's high school, college, work, whatever), and don't EVER take a conversation for granted. আপনি never know how desperate আপনি might be later on to be বন্ধু with them. This was probably my biggest mistake; the first time my guy and I talked, I played along, no real issues, but I didn't think much of it. He just seemed like another guy, and I always waited for him to talk to me, and rarely took initiative to start a conversation myself অথবা to carry it on. Just thinking of what could've been, that sense of regret of not taking আরো chances from the start really stings.
2. Don't be afraid! I know that saying may be overrated, but it's true. I used to be so intimidated দ্বারা the thought of trying to talk to him, just as most girls are with their mega crushes, but seriously, you've gotta take the chance, trust me. If আপনি get shot down, well, আপনি haven't really হারিয়ে গেছে anything, right? Better to regret things আপনি did than regret things আপনি didn't do.
3. Make eye contact. I know, scary, right? I used to always be super intimidated দ্বারা it, but trust me, you'll look WAY আরো awkward if you're NOT making eye contact than if আপনি are. This doesn't just apply to conversation; even walking দ্বারা them in the hall অথবা if আপনি see them somewhere outside of class. I used to not make eye contact with my crush when I walked right দ্বারা him to my আসন every day. I feel like if I had done that from that start, that very simple gesture of looking at him and smiling, things would've been different. I would've প্রদত্ত off a much আরো friendly vibe.
4. Stay focused talking about THEM, NOT about yourself. We all, as humans, have a tendency to talk about ourselves a lot; it's our পছন্দ topic. However, it can bore people easily. Instead, try to keep asking প্রশ্ন about them and bouncing off that. But be careful not to make it an interrogation. :P
5. If the person if বন্ধু with any of your friends, TALK TO YOUR বন্ধু ABOUT IT. Once I revealed to our mutual বন্ধু that I liked this guy, they helped me out so much to hang out with him and get to know him better. I wouldn't have even got half as far as I did if it weren't for them. If আপনি find out where he works, grab a friend and casually go visit.
6. I thought this sounded pathetic at first, but it really helps: try thinking of a few topics to bring up beforehand, even if আপনি have to write them down and review them a few times, just give it a shot. No one needs to know.
7. Now for আপনি high schoolers, if you're planning on going to prom, অথবা homecoming, etc. and desperately want to go with your crush like I did, please, take my advice: DO IT. As long as they're single, just go up and ask them. This is one of my biggest regrets. My guy was single for a while, until he decided t go with one of his friends, and I had the chance to ask him, but my fear of rejection and my fear of losing hope to befriend him stopped me from taking the chance. Prom was still fun and all, but I had to keep looking back at him with his তারিখ all night and it was a real downer. আপনি never know what might happen, so just do it, unless আপনি are absolutely 100% positive that they'll say no. And hey, if they do turn আপনি down, just smile and take it with dignity, so আপনি still have a chance to at least be friends. If you're not sure if আপনি want to go with them অথবা not, hey, I wasn't sure either, until I got there and saw him with his date, and my বন্ধু with their dates. So just go for it.
8. Now, this is also very important. Even though it's crucial to take risks and try your best to talk to the person and all, it's also crucial to GIVE THEM THEIR SPACE. If they seem uninterested in the conversation you're trying to have, অথবা if they don't really try to carry it on, অথবা if আপনি can just see it in their face, just stop right there and give them a break. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't like আপনি অথবা anything, but everyone needs space. If they're giving আপনি a signal, আপনি need to respect that. I had to deal with this, and it's not fun, but it DOESN'T mean আপনি should give up altogether. Just give them a দিন অথবা two, and try again. I followed this motto: be friendly, not desperate.
9. If it's a situation like mine, where in class, অথবা even outside of class for that matter, they're always around their friends, and seem much আরো interested in talking to them than with you, just accept it and respect it. Doesn't mean they're neglecting you, but guys especially, with their bro friends... it can be kinda difficult to talk to your guy crush in that situation. Just try to interact with all of them, but don't try too hard. And on your part, always always ALWAYS be sure that আপনি DON'T neglect your own বন্ধু for your crush. I know that;s ব্যক্ত a lot, but some things are much easier ব্যক্ত than done. I used to kinda ditch my বন্ধু a little দ্বারা taking off from that class to the class I had with him, just for a tiny bit আরো time to possibly talk to him. Don't do it; doing things like that just isn't cool.
10. Lastly, have confidence and determination! It really shows if আপনি have it অথবা lack it. Have a positive mindset; don't ever get your hopes up too high, otherwise you'll be that much আরো crushed if things don't go well. Instead, plan ahead for success অথবা failure, and be ready to accept either one. If it doesn't work out, it's okay. Just take chances, not too many, and try to have fun with it. আপনি never know what awesome result could come out of one simple মতামত অথবা action.
Please note that I'm definitely no expert, not even close :P. But I have learned these things all from personal experience, some things came the easy way, some things the hard way. I'm still trying to apply these things into my own life. I'm not trying to preach অথবা lecture, but this is my উপদেশ that I have to offer. I hate how I didn't take certain chances while I still could, and I hate the thought of other people doing the same thing and feeling the regret that I feel. So, I guess that concludes my little ramble :P.
And thank আপনি to those of আপনি who gave me উপদেশ on my crush a little while back; আপনি know who আপনি are. :)
Anyways, here are some things I've learned from the whole experience.
1. Don't EVER pass up an opportunity to talk to ANYONE you're sitting near in class (doesn't matter if it's high school, college, work, whatever), and don't EVER take a conversation for granted. আপনি never know how desperate আপনি might be later on to be বন্ধু with them. This was probably my biggest mistake; the first time my guy and I talked, I played along, no real issues, but I didn't think much of it. He just seemed like another guy, and I always waited for him to talk to me, and rarely took initiative to start a conversation myself অথবা to carry it on. Just thinking of what could've been, that sense of regret of not taking আরো chances from the start really stings.
2. Don't be afraid! I know that saying may be overrated, but it's true. I used to be so intimidated দ্বারা the thought of trying to talk to him, just as most girls are with their mega crushes, but seriously, you've gotta take the chance, trust me. If আপনি get shot down, well, আপনি haven't really হারিয়ে গেছে anything, right? Better to regret things আপনি did than regret things আপনি didn't do.
3. Make eye contact. I know, scary, right? I used to always be super intimidated দ্বারা it, but trust me, you'll look WAY আরো awkward if you're NOT making eye contact than if আপনি are. This doesn't just apply to conversation; even walking দ্বারা them in the hall অথবা if আপনি see them somewhere outside of class. I used to not make eye contact with my crush when I walked right দ্বারা him to my আসন every day. I feel like if I had done that from that start, that very simple gesture of looking at him and smiling, things would've been different. I would've প্রদত্ত off a much আরো friendly vibe.
4. Stay focused talking about THEM, NOT about yourself. We all, as humans, have a tendency to talk about ourselves a lot; it's our পছন্দ topic. However, it can bore people easily. Instead, try to keep asking প্রশ্ন about them and bouncing off that. But be careful not to make it an interrogation. :P
5. If the person if বন্ধু with any of your friends, TALK TO YOUR বন্ধু ABOUT IT. Once I revealed to our mutual বন্ধু that I liked this guy, they helped me out so much to hang out with him and get to know him better. I wouldn't have even got half as far as I did if it weren't for them. If আপনি find out where he works, grab a friend and casually go visit.
6. I thought this sounded pathetic at first, but it really helps: try thinking of a few topics to bring up beforehand, even if আপনি have to write them down and review them a few times, just give it a shot. No one needs to know.
7. Now for আপনি high schoolers, if you're planning on going to prom, অথবা homecoming, etc. and desperately want to go with your crush like I did, please, take my advice: DO IT. As long as they're single, just go up and ask them. This is one of my biggest regrets. My guy was single for a while, until he decided t go with one of his friends, and I had the chance to ask him, but my fear of rejection and my fear of losing hope to befriend him stopped me from taking the chance. Prom was still fun and all, but I had to keep looking back at him with his তারিখ all night and it was a real downer. আপনি never know what might happen, so just do it, unless আপনি are absolutely 100% positive that they'll say no. And hey, if they do turn আপনি down, just smile and take it with dignity, so আপনি still have a chance to at least be friends. If you're not sure if আপনি want to go with them অথবা not, hey, I wasn't sure either, until I got there and saw him with his date, and my বন্ধু with their dates. So just go for it.
8. Now, this is also very important. Even though it's crucial to take risks and try your best to talk to the person and all, it's also crucial to GIVE THEM THEIR SPACE. If they seem uninterested in the conversation you're trying to have, অথবা if they don't really try to carry it on, অথবা if আপনি can just see it in their face, just stop right there and give them a break. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't like আপনি অথবা anything, but everyone needs space. If they're giving আপনি a signal, আপনি need to respect that. I had to deal with this, and it's not fun, but it DOESN'T mean আপনি should give up altogether. Just give them a দিন অথবা two, and try again. I followed this motto: be friendly, not desperate.
9. If it's a situation like mine, where in class, অথবা even outside of class for that matter, they're always around their friends, and seem much আরো interested in talking to them than with you, just accept it and respect it. Doesn't mean they're neglecting you, but guys especially, with their bro friends... it can be kinda difficult to talk to your guy crush in that situation. Just try to interact with all of them, but don't try too hard. And on your part, always always ALWAYS be sure that আপনি DON'T neglect your own বন্ধু for your crush. I know that;s ব্যক্ত a lot, but some things are much easier ব্যক্ত than done. I used to kinda ditch my বন্ধু a little দ্বারা taking off from that class to the class I had with him, just for a tiny bit আরো time to possibly talk to him. Don't do it; doing things like that just isn't cool.
10. Lastly, have confidence and determination! It really shows if আপনি have it অথবা lack it. Have a positive mindset; don't ever get your hopes up too high, otherwise you'll be that much আরো crushed if things don't go well. Instead, plan ahead for success অথবা failure, and be ready to accept either one. If it doesn't work out, it's okay. Just take chances, not too many, and try to have fun with it. আপনি never know what awesome result could come out of one simple মতামত অথবা action.
Please note that I'm definitely no expert, not even close :P. But I have learned these things all from personal experience, some things came the easy way, some things the hard way. I'm still trying to apply these things into my own life. I'm not trying to preach অথবা lecture, but this is my উপদেশ that I have to offer. I hate how I didn't take certain chances while I still could, and I hate the thought of other people doing the same thing and feeling the regret that I feel. So, I guess that concludes my little ramble :P.
And thank আপনি to those of আপনি who gave me উপদেশ on my crush a little while back; আপনি know who আপনি are. :)
He had just snorted a line of Horlicks, (he was an idiot)
a rose,
to a person,
is that meaning something?
a gift,
to a person,
is that hiding anything?
a smile,
to a person,
it is আরো that just a friend?
a laugh,
to a person,
is that teasing them?
a book,
to a person,
is that called insulting?
everything must have the negative thought দ্বারা people surround me.
they ask me, "is that just a friend?"
and i will say, "yes, why not?"
they again will ask, "are আপনি like him?"
and i will answer, "people always thinking in negative way. how if i give that to my best friend, is that still meaning something? is that still hiding anything? is that still আরো than a best friend? is that still teasing? is that still insulting?"
and then, i will continue........."no, it is just a friend."
*my life full with untrusted friendship. i don't think they will assume me as their best friend, but if anyone seeking for a trustful friend, i'm here to help you.*
to a person,
is that meaning something?
a gift,
to a person,
is that hiding anything?
a smile,
to a person,
it is আরো that just a friend?
a laugh,
to a person,
is that teasing them?
a book,
to a person,
is that called insulting?
everything must have the negative thought দ্বারা people surround me.
they ask me, "is that just a friend?"
and i will say, "yes, why not?"
they again will ask, "are আপনি like him?"
and i will answer, "people always thinking in negative way. how if i give that to my best friend, is that still meaning something? is that still hiding anything? is that still আরো than a best friend? is that still teasing? is that still insulting?"
and then, i will continue........."no, it is just a friend."
*my life full with untrusted friendship. i don't think they will assume me as their best friend, but if anyone seeking for a trustful friend, i'm here to help you.*
