WARNING...If আপনি ship Bamon, do not read! I repeat, DO NOT READ!!!

*This প্রবন্ধ deals with প্রদর্শনী Bamon, not Book Bamon.

I nearly didn't প্রকাশ this because I was worried that it might instigate a shipper war and that's the last thing I want. I've found that Bamon can be a bit of a smoking gun in DE's fanspot, and Bamon shippers have sometimes wandered in of their own sweet will and read things about their beloved ship which were intended for Delena fans, and as আপনি can guess, the results weren't pretty. I was also a bit scared in case I turned the presence of Bamon into a bigger deal than they are দ্বারা publishing an প্রবন্ধ about them. This প্রবন্ধ does not discuss why Bamon won't work, because I think most DE অনুরাগী know all the reasons why. Instead, I'm going to try and find out why 'Bamon' provoke such a negative response among the DE fanbase. আপনি might think we don't like Bamon because we don't want to see Damon with anyone but Elena. That's one of the reasons, but it's not all of it. It's not just Bamon - it's everything else that seems to come with them. I don't want আপনি to think that we should be worried because Bamon will happen one দিন - that's not my reason for লেখা this. I think Bamon can sometimes be a problem for us. People can get angry, annoyed, intimidated অথবা scared, and that doesn't help the fanbase any. Perhaps discussing Bamon in আরো depth will help.

I normally প্রণয় relationships which start with one party hating the other. So technically, I should ship Bamon. Isn't that The Reason why people ship them? Because of the hatred and the 'fire' which exists between them? But I don't ship them.
I think that DE shippers could tolerate Bamon a bit আরো if every little 'moment' they had wasn't over-hyped and blown out of proportion. I wasn't even aware that a Bamon fanbase existed until I happened to stumble upon an innocent webclip of them. I just didn't get it. I couldn't see why so many people were so excited about them. Bamon অনুরাগী might not be aware of it, but the hype which surrounds any scene of Damon and Bonnie doesn't do them any favours.

Take the spell scene in 'The Sacrifice' for example. আপনি can find it on YouTube entitled 'Bamon Scenes 2x10', which is a bit of an exaggeration, to say the least. Perhaps it's understandable why Bamon অনুরাগী get excited when Bonnie is standing in the same room as Damon; they share so few scenes together. Perhaps it's natural for them to put two and two together and come up with six. Most of the মতামত that accompanied the spell scene were so feverish আপনি would think that Damon was about to do a strip-tease and Bonnie was only মিনিট away from declaring her eternal প্রণয় for him. If Damon and Bonnie as much as glance at each other, it's declared 'eye sex'; if Damon thanks Bonnie for her help, it's proof of how much he cares for her; and if Damon mentions Bonnie দ্বারা name at all, then it's evidence she's on his mind দিন and night and Elena should be jealous of all the attention Bonnie is apparently getting.
I think everyone who ships a couple has had that moment when they saw something special in their scenes together, something natural and right which made them go 'Those two should be together.' But when people are getting near-hysterical over something আপনি can't see, it makes it very difficult for আপনি to warm to them. I think DE shippers wouldn't mind Bamon as much if their অনুরাগী enjoyed their scenes for what they are instead of some sweeping romance that was about to start any minute.

I've read মতামত from one Bamon shipper who apparently accused DE অনুরাগী of 'denying' that Bamon have chemistry. This is untrue. DE shippers would be a lot আরো generous towards Bamon if we could see that they DID have chemistry, but that's the problem - we can't. It's not because we don't want to - I rewatched the spell scene on YouTube three times to make sure I hadn't missed something - it is simply not there. I think people who are adamant that Bamon chemistry exists are confusing the hostility which governs their relationship for sexual tension. The truth is, a couple need to have আরো than hatred before they can be defined as having chemistry. Damon has never made Bonnie smile. He's never made her laugh. They've never had a moment which showed they understood each other. These are the things that really make a couple's chemistry convincing. It's fair enough if people find Bamon interesting because they hate each other - but they are barking up the wrong বৃক্ষ if they think that blind hatred alone qualifies as attraction.

I suspect a big reason which accounts for Delena shippers distaste towards Bamon is this: their অনুরাগী are already assuming Bamon will happen and are planning to do a dance on Delena's grave when it does. DE has suffered a massive set-back this season, so to hear that some Bamon অনুরাগী are waving their 'Bamon Are The Future' flags when DE are barely up and running - and when we've still got the entire series to go - is greeted with incredulity. OK, I'm not going to lie and pretend that DE অনুরাগী aren't going to be happy when SE break up, but SE have at least been together, whereas DE haven't. It's like saying that whatever Damon feels for Elena right now won't last, and doesn't matter. Moreover, I find it অবিশ্বাস্য that they can be so sure when all the evidence points to the contrary. Heck, I have the best faith in DE in the world, but even I don't take it for granted that they will be endgame; I can't think that far ahead at the moment.
Maybe I would be আরো accepting of Bamon happening in the future if we had a good three and a half years of Delena's relationship first, and they weren't as exciting অথবা as good as they used to be. (Perish the thought.) Maybe then I would think it was time to pair Damon with someone new and I would be OK with it, because at least DE were together for three Seasons. But we don't know what will happen. It could take DE until Season 5 before they become a couple. I know that everyone thinks DE will have their first real চুম্বন this season, but when have the writers ever done what we expected? I hate the fact that those BD shippers are dismissing what's really happening in front of them right now: Damon loving Elena enough to let her go, willing to do anything to protect her, even if it means losing his life, intervening before she 'sacrificed' herself...the তালিকা goes on and on. Damon's only nice to Bonnie when she's got something he needs (like Emily's crystal), অথবা when she's done something to help him, (like helping to kidnap Mason অথবা casting a spell that will incapacitate Katherine). In other words, he's only her ally when it স্যুইটস্‌ him. I find it repugnant that some Bamon shippers blatantly overlook this, and shrug off DE as 'no big deal' when Damon has never done anything for Bonnie. I find SE the dullest ship ever created but to say that they don't প্রণয় each other would be untrue. So why can't some Bamon shippers acknowledge that Damon loves Elena, and that it's just not in his nature to fall madly in প্রণয় with a different girl every 2 years?

However, it's arguably not just the অনুরাগী who over-hype Bamon. Probably, DE অনুরাগী would find it easier to live with Bamon if certain media sources didn't persistently hint that Bamon might have a chance instead of viewing them for what they are: an AU couple, something that is firmly lodged in ফ্যান্টাসি and not likely to become a reality any time soon. In some circumstances, I've felt that some interviews might be guilty of even promoting Bamon. In interviews with Katerina Graham অথবা Ian Somerhalder, the প্রশ্ন 'What about Bamon? Will Damon and Bonnie ever hook up?' has cropped up on আরো than one occasion. This is a ridiculous প্রশ্ন when Damon and Bonnie don't even LIKE each other, and it has nothing to do with what's being presented on the show. Will Bonnie be able to forgive Damon one দিন for everything he's done? That would be আরো appropriate for their 'relationship'. Although these প্রশ্ন are asked as well, it seems that certain sources are intent on pursuing the Bamon question, অথবা at least want to make us think that romantic intrigue could be on the way for them. But there's absolutely no evidence to suggest such a hook-up could be possible. So what's really going on?

I think it's obvious that the majority of the media are rooting for Delena. Maybe a small portion are interested in Bamon because they're intrigued that a Bamon fanbase exists. Maybe it's because they know Delena have the most অনুরাগী on the প্রদর্শনী and suggesting that Bamon could be romantically linked will naturally provoke them. Maybe it's scare-mongering. Whatever it is, pushing the Bamon hook-up প্রশ্ন in interviews is very misleading. It gets Bamon shippers all excited for nothing, and makes Delena shippers angry. It really does no good for anyone.

Bamon অনুরাগী have sometimes accused DE shippers of being mean and aggressive and demanding. In fact, somebody পোষ্ট হয়েছে on our দেওয়াল recently that we have the meanest fans. I hope this প্রবন্ধ doesn't come across as mean. I also hope it doesn't detract from Delena, because I really don't want it to. Of course there's nothing stopping Kevin and Julie from লেখা a Bamon romance if they think it would make a good story, and people can ship Bamon if they want to. But why they can prefer Bamon over Delena will always remain a mystery to me. But sshh! Just don't tell them that.