I believe it was Alyssa in Chasing Amy who ব্যক্ত it best: "I came to this on my terms. I didn't just heed what I was taught, আপনি know? Men and women should be together, it's the natural way - that kind of thing. I'm not with আপনি because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from দিন one. The way the world is - how seldom আপনি meet that one person who gets you... it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There was no example set for me in the world of male/female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person - to immediately half your options দ্বারা eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender... that just seemed stupid. So I didn't. And দ্বারা leaving my options open, I was branded 'gay', which to me was no big deal - labels are labels, আপনি know? They define what আপনি do, not who আপনি are, I guess. But then আপনি come along. আপনি - the one least likely; I mean, আপনি were a guy."
So my উপদেশ to আপনি is this: When some nosy, label-oriented person demands that আপনি tell them your sexuality-- a very personal revelation, even if আপনি decide to classify yourself as "straight"-- tell them that আপনি are interested in falling in প্রণয় with a person. Why? Because it's the truth.
Alyssa (or Kevin Smith) is right when she says that it's about finding that one person, regardless of gender, that আপনি feel the most comfortable with, and who আপনি care the most about. It has been ব্যক্ত many times that the এলজিবিটি গোষ্ঠী community isn't about gender, it's about love and that is the truest phrase that could ever be ব্যক্ত on the subject.
I have been accused myself of lumping too many things under labels in this spot and elsewhere, and I own up to it. I even made a link where I asked আপনি to identify your sexuality. Why? Because we feel comfortable with labels. Coming out and declaring "I'm gay!" is both a terrifying and liberating experience, because it means that we are something, and it's easier to be something clear than to be something obscure. We are comfortable with labels because they give us our identity while simultaneously dividing us from the rest of the world. And now, I'm not just talking about gay, straight, bi-- I'm talking democrat, republican, black, white, Asian, Arab, American, French, British, Canadian, girl, boy, teen, adult-- Anything that আপনি choose to identify yourself as. It's good to be something, but don't forget the label that fits আপনি like a glove-- Human.
"Love is প্রণয় is love," ব্যক্ত Paulo in link দ্বারা Octavio Solis. It is beyond labels. It is beyond comprehension, and it is beyond the laws of physics.
It just is.
So break the societal mold: Fall in প্রণয় with a person.
