This প্রবন্ধ was written দ্বারা ফ্যানপপ guest contributor Trina G.


Every now and then we get into relationships that start out awesome but then dwindle into something less than perfect. While it’s perfectly normal to not be perfect, আপনি have to know when it’s time to let go and সরানো on.

Sometimes people change…and sometimes they drag আপনি into an endless abyss of whiney ooze and greedy goo, where আপনি trudge along desperately hoping to escape the insanity. Here are 10 signs the madness won’t end and that it’s time to dump that chump.




1. He Abuses You

If a man abuses you, either physically অথবা emotionally, আপনি have to dump him. Abusive men do not change (they don’t know how). Get rid of him now while আপনি still can. And if আপনি need help অথবা someone to talk to, the link is there for আপনি 24/7.




2. He Never Has Any Money

It’s one thing to work your butt off for some whip-wielding boss, earning minimum wage and never having spare cash for a romantic restaurant, at least your man is working and putting in some effort. It’s another thing if he’s asking আপনি to pay his rent this মাস because he owed Smelly Lenny some funds from a bet gone sour. Ditch him.


3. He Cancels Your Dates to be With the Guys

Any time your guy spends আরো time cancelling your dates to hang with his buddies than he does actually dating আপনি it’s time to get rid of him. He’s obviously dating his buddies, not you.




4. He Texts আপনি at 3AM

If every weekend you’re awoken দ্বারা a text that reads: “Are আপনি awake, babe? I’m kinda drunk and need a ride home/I’m in the mood” (in less than good grammar), it’s time to ditch him.


5. He Doesn’t Listen to You

Now, to clarify, there’s a difference between him tuning out your incessant nagging (which is normal relationship behavior) and him forgetting that your grandma is in the hospital so আপনি can’t cook ডিনার for him tonight. If your guy forgets important events, your পছন্দ (and least favorite) foods, your dreams, hobbies, অথবা (especially) your name…dump him.




6. He’s Unsupportive of Your Dreams

Equally as bad as forgetting your dreams is the guy who couldn’t care less about them. If আপনি tell him that আপনি want to be an artist and he tells আপনি to do something useful with your life instead, then he’s not supportive and আপনি should dump him.


7. He Flirts With Everyone

I’ll admit, sometimes flirting is a natural habit that most people don’t even realize they have. Still, if every time আপনি go out he’s giving himself whiplash trying to watch a girl’s behind as she goes by, and then makes a মতামত about how hot she was, then he doesn’t respect আপনি enough to keep his eyes to himself and আপনি should get rid of him.




8. He’s Rude to Your Family
It’s a rare person that loves their partner’s parents. However, no matter how much your city dwelling guy can’t stand your ট্র্যাক্টর driving redneck mom and dad, he has to be nice to them. There’s absolutely no excuse for being rude to your parents, it’s disrespectful and আপনি should get rid of him (or let your dad give him the boot).

9. He’s a Loafer

Did your guy stay the night one night and never leave? Have আপনি been dating three months and he’s living with আপনি rent free, eating all your chips and playing X-Box all দিন while you’re at work? Does he also leave the house a mess and invite his বন্ধু over without telling you? If your guy is the “I just couldn’t get rid of him” guy, then আপনি need to send him on a পিজা run and change the locks while he’s gone.




10. He Cheated on You

If your man cheated on আপনি one night, regrets it immensely, and has felt horrible ever since, there’s nothing saying he’ll ever do it again. It is possible to সরানো past a one night stand, depending on the relationship. But, if he’s had a lover for a while, অথবা numerous affairs, then he’s a chronic cheater and you’re not going to be able to সরানো beyond that. Get rid of him.
There are plenty of guys out there who will be nice to you, so don’t waste your time on these kinds of guys. Ditch him now and be done!