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I don't know a good প্রশ্ন to ask so lemme say this: Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex.

I read Cinder's প্রবন্ধ (How Maturity Leads To Good Sex, অথবা something similar) and I considered all these questions.
1) Are আপনি having sex just for the sake of having sex?
2) Are আপনি having sex because আপনি were pressured into having sex?
3) Does the idea of buying condoms make আপনি uncomfortable?
4) Do আপনি think that আপনি can't get pregnant on your period?
5) Can আপনি talk to your partner-- without laughing-- about sex? This includes what আপনি like about sex, and the things your partner does well, and the things s/he could improve on.
6) Have আপনি thought about ways to make the experience memorable?
7) Have আপনি gotten tested for STDs, অথবা gone to a doctor for a physical lately?
8) Do আপনি want your partner to have just as good an experience as আপনি do, অথবা do আপনি not care?

If আপনি answered "Yes" on any of the 1-4 questions, অথবা if আপনি answered "No" on any of the 5-8 questions, then আপনি are not mature enough to have great sex. If আপনি chose "No" on all of 1-4, and if আপনি chose "Yes" on all of 5-8, then congratulations! You're a mature adult who can make his/her own decisions. Hooray!
I agree with all these so I asked my boyfriend them as well. The only প্রশ্ন we got "wrong" (we got all the same answers) was প্রশ্ন 7. I ASSURE আপনি all we are both virgins and I am on the pill and we have condoms. I care about him and believe I do in fact প্রণয় him. The only thing is that I'm 14 and he's 16. He ব্যক্ত he wanted to wait a while but then changed his mind and I don't want either of us to have sex til we're both ready. I think that he'd take care of me and I wouldn't have the emotional baggage associated with sex. But I'd like the opinion of older, আরো experienced people. Minus the age, I think I'm ready. Just give me your opinion please. Thankies :)
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And he and I have discused this. He says "If আপনি are ready then we will." Hes not pushing me, I want ya'll to know that.
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SouthParkSmart said:
I think আপনি are being very mature about this in considering Cinders' প্রশ্ন and using birth control. I know আপনি want a non-virgin perspective, and I apologize, and আপনি may think I'm just তিক্ত because I "can't get laid". But I would strongly advise against it. I just cannot morally tell আপনি that it would be okay for আপনি to have sex.

Please don't take offense to this, but you're fourteen, and আপনি may not be able to see the consequenses clearly at this point. Psychology has shown us that the human mind is not fully developed until we are in our mid-twenties, and that's why teenagers do things that seem okay at the time, but don't consider the consequenses.

Think about this: would আপনি be ready to deal with an unexpected pregnancy? I know আপনি ব্যক্ত আপনি are both virgins, but from my understanding, there are other ways of aquiring STD's not necessarily from sex. These are realities আপনি may have to face. I would not want this to happen to a sweet, careful person like you, but it is possible.
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Thanks for your উপদেশ :)
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You're welcome!
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And hey, if I end up regreting it, I know I can talk to him and he'll make me feel better and we won't do it again :)
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bri-marie said:
If আপনি feel আপনি and your boyfriend are ready, and you're sure are ready to deal with the consequences, if any come up, then I don't see why not. আপনি seem to have a pretty good idea of how আপনি feel and what a sexual relationship entails.

The only problem I can see is that, depending on where আপনি live, আপনি could be under the age of consent and he's over the age (or at the age - generally the age of consent is between fifteen and sixteen). It could cause problems if either of your parents aren't okay with it.
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Thanks :)
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Haha, I'm not very good at calculating things like that. From what I've heard, the chances are fairly low. But things do happen and there is a chance.
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I understand that. But I think chances are low, and just this once we'll be fine.
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kittencutie119 said:
Honestly hon i would wait. আপনি are just 14. and yea আপনি are on the pill and আপনি have condoms but neither are 100%. The condom could breack and the pill takes a while to settle in. considering waiting.
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I've been on for four months.
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fine get pregnant i just didnt want আপনি to be in the hospita;l at 14 and being the most sick youve ever been.
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i agree. wait at least until marriage.
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lilith84 said:
If আপনি feel you're ready, but only if আপনি really want it then your age shouldn't matter. But I can't stess enough only if আপনি really feel আপনি are ready. Be sure, be prepered (condoms are always a nessesity, virgin অথবা not, pill অথবা not - better নিরাপদ than sorry). And আপনি both have to make sure the other has a memorable experince, meaning, lots and lots of foreplay, no rush and comunnication! If আপনি don't like something, something makes আপনি feel pain etc. আপনি cannot be affaid of saying it. Otherwise have fun :D
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Oh believe me, we talk about it. We've done everything but sex and we both প্রণয় to talk about it. He is over sensitive about hurting me though... Like, if his finger goes in at a kinda pinching angle, you'd think he was the one who got hurt! Haha :) We do have condoms and I was put on the pill 4 months পূর্বে for PMS. And believe me, we are beasts at foreplay. And I do think we're ready, if it ends up we're not, then we're there for eachother. We've talked about that too :)
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it looks like আপনি guys are ready then :)
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Thankies:) I প্রণয় him... I really do. And I can say that because I told him I don't wanna say it til i'm absolutely sure
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jbforme said:
WAIT, YOUR BOYFRIEND? NO, NO, NO! WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE BECAUSE LOSING YOUR VIRGINTY BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A AWFUL! P.S DON'T GET MARRIED EARLY JUST SO আপনি CAN SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER. THATS MY OPINION.
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I don't agree with marriage. I don't wanna ever get married.
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marriage is overrated, besides, আপনি need to test the potential candidates before আপনি decide to spent the rest of your life with one of them.
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not everyone has to get married. I'm in a relationship for 7 years now and we have decided not to get married. I am not in the least interested in wedding bands and crap like that.
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germany123 said:
you're being responsible, আপনি guys seem to be in a stable relationship, আপনি have thought aboot the pros and cons- normally i would say go for it. yeah i am european so i dont get the whole OMG WAIT TILL আপনি ARE MARRIED thing.
the only thing i would argue is that youre obviously not sure. if আপনি were আপনি wouldnt have to ask peoples advice. and thats my only argument really...you're not sure so wait.
i wouldnt wait until আপনি get married অথবা have reached a certain age thats deemed "acceptable" i would till আপনি -withoot a doubt- say "yes" rather than "uh maybe not sure"

(and yes i am a non-virgin...and i am not married :P *GASP*)



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Haha, well I think I'm totally ready but people keep telling me about emotional consequences and so I just really was curious if I'd get that. Btw Ich leibe Deutschland!
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LadyLilith said:
Grrr, I sent it to you. =_=;; ফ্যানপপ was being a douche and cutting my stuff off because it was too long. Ask me about it if anyone else is interested~
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And again, I apologize if it does not help at all. ;;; Just if আপনি have questions, please ask and I will answer and help out the best I can~
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