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My crush is sending me mixed signals?

I apologize if this gets a little hard to follow অথবা very long. Anyway, I have a major crush on a boy I work with. I am 19 and he is 21. I was never attracted to him to begin with, but now I just can’t stop thinking about him. I get intense butterflies, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat and it’s driving me nuts.
The reason I feel that this crush in particular is so intense is because I think he may like me too. The issue is, my crush is sending me so many mixed signals and I am extremely confused. Here are some scenarios to explain:
The only other person at work who knows is my friend Beth. When we were discussing it, I informed Beth that I don’t think anything will happen. She asked why and I explained that one দিন him and I were talking about an argument Beth had with her boyfriend at প্রথমপাতা and he said, “this is why I don’t want a relationship. Hooking up is so much easier because once it’s done it’s done, no আরো drama.” Beth told me “Really? Because he told me that he really wanted a girlfriend because he missed having someone to travel with অথবা have দ্বারা his side.” (Mind you, Beth is much older than us and has been with her boyfriend for fifteen years, so he told her this as confiding in a friend, not flirtatious.)
Then, the দিন I told Beth I had a crush on him, I told her at work. I tried to keep it secretive, because I knew he was working too. While we were discussing it, he kept walking into the area where we were suspiciously. When we were done, Beth went to the back and he confronted her, asking her “What were আপনি guys talking about?” Beth, trying to play it off sarcastically, ব্যক্ত “Well, she’s thinking of আপনি as a possible option for her crush.” He then replied, “Okay, well I’ll stay hopeful.”
Later on, Beth ended up staying a little after her shift to eat some food, and so did my crush, so they ended up eating together. I had written my number on a napkin for Beth so she could call me later when I got off of work to discu
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discuss my crush. He looked at the napkin and asked Beth, “Can I have that?” meaning my number. She ব্যক্ত sure, and began putting in a good word for me, and he agreed with everything she ব্যক্ত about me, but also ব্যক্ত he just wished I would come out with him and his বন্ধু more. He ended up taking my number and asked Beth, “Can I tell her I got it from you, because she might think I’m weird if I tell her I found it on a table.” She ব্যক্ত yes, and he left. Thing is: he never texted me, and this happened almost two weeks ago. We continuously flirt at work though, and last Saturday Beth and I began discussing my crush on him again, at work. Beth decided that she would turn this into a mission, getting us two together. Beth, my crush and another girl (who happens to be my crush’s best friend and around our age) were going to the চলচ্চিত্র that night. Beth convinced me to go, saying it would just be us four, and it would be the perfect opportunity to hang out with him outside of work. I’ve only done that once before, and it was at a party with a ton of people so we only flirted for a bit, he gave me a drink, and then we got separated দ্বারা our groups. This time, it would just four people and I could handle that. After Beth invited me, my crush came to our area again. I was talking to some other girls I work with and he was busy doing something else, but then he randomly asked me, “Hey, do আপনি smoke hookah?” He is an avid hookah smoker, and so am I. I replied with, “Yes!” and he was kind of surprised, because, let’s face it, I look like a very innocent girl who would never do anything, but I really do a lot আরো than I let on. “You should come smoke hookah me!“ and he got cut off and I ব্যক্ত “Smoke hookah where?” and he ব্যক্ত “At my house!” and he started explaining some of the hookah he has. That was the end of that conversation though because one of our managers came in and asked him to do something for him. So we never set a date, অথবা anything. Fast অগ্রবর্তী to that night, I ended up ditching a party for the movies, and driving through a thunderstorm to get to this movie. When I walked into the movie theater lobby with Beth, the way he looked at me when I first walked in made me melt, the way he ব্যক্ত Hi to me made my হৃদয় skip a beat, and we ended up sitting পরবর্তি to each other during the entire movie. But that was all. We barely talked through the movie; we didn’t even flirt with each other. We stayed after the movie, talking for a bit, and then we went on our separate ways, barely even saying goodbye to each other. I logged onto twitter than night, and he পোষ্ট হয়েছে a couple of inside jokes we had from our movie night, then পোষ্ট হয়েছে this tweet: “Talking to my grandma and realized its been years since I’ve had a girlfriend. But I have just become so independent and I am happy.” So that’s basically that. I followed him on instagram and he followed me back, and I পোষ্ট হয়েছে a picture of myself, just to see what would happen and he liked it. Today we worked together, and we barely talked even though we just went out on Saturday. We did a little flirting, but that was that. I just want to know either how I can get over him, অথবা should I just go for him?
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HeadlessRider32 said:
It depends if আপনি should just go for him of not. Do আপনি প্রণয় him is he someone আপনি really want to be with অথবা is he just a guy at the time আপনি like. If আপনি truly প্রণয় him then ask him out make the first সরানো and if he says no then either get over him অথবা keep fighting for him. In the end আপনি never know what can happen so take chances.
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