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i'm 16. i know when you're 16 you're supposed to be all hormonal and horny, but i'm really just not. my best friend thinks i'm asexual but i don't think so, i like boys, i just don't want to have sex with them. my last boyfriend was 7th grade and i never made out with anyone until my 16th birthday and that was just a drunked birthday thing with a guy who meant nothing and really just wanted to get some. anyways, as of 3 days ago, i have a boyfriend. i like him alot and he's funny and really sweet but i'm really not sexually attracted to him. i thought it would change when he kissed me but it didn't, and now i feel really bad. i don't want to break up with him i just don't really wanna do anything sexual with him for awhile and i don't know what to tell him. i feel like if i break up with him i'll regret it but know i should because its not fair to him.
so if আপনি read this, what should i do?
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SouthParkSmart said:
It is possible আপনি could be asexual. But don't let your friend অথবা anyone else tell আপনি that. It's YOUR life; don't let anyone label you.

If আপনি don't feel sexually attracted to anyone (girls included), then আপনি may be asexual. But, আপনি may also be a "late bloomer". There's nothing wrong with that. If আপনি want to, আপনি can identify as asexual for the time being, because sexuality can change over time.

If your boyfriend is looking for sex that আপনি don't want to give him, that's one thing. If আপনি two get along fine and have fun doing non-sexual things like going on dates and hanging out, maybe আপনি should consider staying together. However, if he's pressuring you, আপনি should probably get out of the relationship.

Just explain to him that আপনি aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and that it isn't his fault, but if he would like to stay together with you, আপনি will have to find some things to do together that আপনি both enjoy.

Hope this helps!
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Great answer. Voted best one দ্বারা me. ♥
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^^^ Me too :)
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Perfect answer I must say. It's all true.
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ruby1000 said:
Ok I have absolutley no experince অথবা anything but I think that আপনি should stay with hime. He sound like a great guy and your right in saying আপনি might regret it. Not all relationships are based on sex and stuff and at 16 he might not want all of that. আপনি could talk to him and explain how আপনি feel. আপনি say that আপনি like boys, so have আপনি ever been attracted to any in the past...
Also I think that আপনি can get tested for being asexual maybe that would help...
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shomill said:
Sounds like আপনি have excellent emotional and sexual control. I wish I had just a little bit of that. Not much, just a little.
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boolander25 said:
Ok, don't feel bad. At all. I'm exactly the same with my boyfriend. Like your story is so similar to mine, it's freaky. I'm not sexually attracted to guys my age at all, I don't know why, my boyfriend thinks I'm weird. So don't feel bad, you're nto alone in this strange weird teenager feeling. I've mad eout with my bf like quite a few times and my feelings really haven't changed for him either. It may nto be perfectly normal, but it's obviously not unheard of, if there are other people who have felt the same way like this about guys. Just don't break up with him. tell him how আপনি feel, it helps. Truly it does. Just tell him আপনি want to get used to dating first and then try things out. If your guy really loves আপনি and wants to be with you, he'll make things work.
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thanks alot(:
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jeniffer2200 said:
well..you should not breakup with him that will be bad because আপনি will feel bad আরো than before just complete with him with time everthing আপনি want to do with him will happen
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doggee said:
the thing that is clear is ,u r heterosexual.OK. but it seems that u do not have much sexual urges.This happens with some ppl.(in any sexuality) but i think, before doing anything to yourself, better to talk to sexologist.Sexologists অথবা psychiatrists study gender psychology throughly and they have much much আরো and authentic information and ALSO THE SOLUTION OF YOUR PROBLEM WITHOUT CREATING MESS.
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Lawli-gagger said:
OK 1 I will just say that because you're not sexually attracted to anyone doesn't mean anything. Relationships don't require sex to keep things going অথবা interesting. For some its a nice thing (ppl like me :) ) but to others its not such a big deal. If আপনি don't want to, thats the end of the story. It just doesn't happen and don't let anyone pressure আপনি into thinking আপনি HAVE to do it to keep this guy in your life. Also talk to him about it (as detailed as আপনি are comfy with) and tell him you're just not ready to go that far and may not ever be if he understands keep him if he doesn't break up.
আপনি are আপনি and if anyone has a problem with that they can shove it. :)

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 OK 1 I will just say that because you're not sexually attracted to anyone doesn't mean anything. Relationships don't require sex to keep things going অথবা interesting. For some its a nice thing (ppl like me :) ) but to others its not such a big deal. If আপনি don't want to, thats the end of the story. It just doesn't happen and don't let anyone pressure আপনি into thinking আপনি HAVE to do it to keep this guy in your life. Also talk to him about it (as detailed as আপনি are comfy with) and tell him you're just not ready to go that far and may not ever be if he understands keep him if he doesn't break up. আপনি are আপনি and if anyone has a problem with that they can shove it. :)
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